A STUDY ON NATURE OF PEOPLE

                                        A STUDY ON NATURE OF PEOPLE

AIM : To understand and analyze the nature of people.

OBJECTIVES:

— Individual characteristics you came across.

— Individual differences you came across.

— Personality differences among them.

— Needs and motivation differences among them.

— Which counselling/family therapy technique/theory is more suitable for what problem and which age group (with respect to the individuals you observed).

— How would family therapy be effective in the different age groups selected?

METHOD

Material Required: Pen, paper and diary.

Procedure: For this reflection, I observed three people from different life cycle stages. One is male teenage child, other is adult female bearing a child and another is male adult from the families as launching center. I have observed and compared individual characteristics, personality, problems, needs of motivation and about application of counseling and family therapy and it’s effectiveness to that age group.

 Findings: (Findings described in para A,B and C.)

A. Observations of male adult that have a teenager child:

I had observed a 13 years old boy name Bhaskarjyoti Deka.

i) Individual characteristics:

·         He is internet addicted.

·         He is less interested in his study.

·         He is overweight with high body mass index.

·         Eating too much and frequently

·         Sometime vomits due to indigestions

·         He does not like to go outside from home.

·         Fasting for a long time then eat uncontrollably.

 ii) Personality: He has an agreeable personality. He obeys parents and seniors always.

iii) Problems: The main problem is his eating disorder. As per his characteristics observed, I think he is suffering from Bulimia Nervosa. Because self-vomiting after over eating and weight gain is symptoms of bulimia nervosa. It may be the cause of his  loneliness and depression.

iv)  Needs of Motivation : He needs strong motivation to loss his weight and to change his eating habit. For regular yoga and meditation also needs strong motivations.

v) What technique of counseling and family therapy needed: He needs Family-based therapy and yoga therapy

vi) How would family therapy be effective in this age groups: Family based therapy is also known as “Maudsley Approach”. In this therapy all family members involved to achieve the goal. In first phase his eating should be controlled under the supervision of the parents or family members. In second phase balanced and healthy diet habit should be formed and in third phase weight should be reduced. For serotonin reuptake or balancing the chemical messenger in brain yoga therapy and meditations definitely may be helpful in this case of Bulimia Nervosa. His lack of interest in study and outdoor activities may also be rectified by the yoga therapy.   Particularly in this age group of adolescence both the therapy will be very effective.

B. Observations of adult female bearing a child: I observed Mrs. Nijara Huzuri, who is wife of my elder cousin brother and she is 24 years old.

i) Individual characteristics

·         Found her confused and angry in behavior.

·         She has lack of enough sleep and symptoms of anxiety.

·         Weakness and more hungriness are also seen in her.

·         Due to Caesarian surgery her backache and powerlessness disturbed her routine works.

·         Sadness, irritability and mood swing also observed in her.

·         Not interested to household work, reduced concentration.

·         She is not an open lady as I observed. She is not saying anything clearly even she does not like something. She shows it by other aggressive action.

·         Frequently complaining or criticized other.

·         She forgets the task and word easily.

·         She feels bounded because she like to traveling, shopping etc.

ii) Personality : As per the characteristics observed, she has  passive- aggressive personality. This may be taken as less serious personality disorder. Some the symptoms of postpartum disorder also seen in that situation which is somewhat similar to personality disorder.

iii) Problems

a) She is loaded with house work and childcare with ever increasing expectations from family members as to the roles of the young bride, the young mother and as the wife.

b) Her mobility is affected as she needs to be physically present with the small infant and so feels stuck up in the house.

c) She has no personal space and time for herself as the child is needs her time and energy, which her feel all bound up with housework and childcare.

d) She has health issues like backache and powerlessness after the birth of the baby and unable to lead a healthy and normal life to fulfill all the multiple roles in the family.

e) The nature and quality of the husband-wife interaction patterns change after the child is born. The changes in the communication patterns, amount of time spent together, changes in the daily routine may prove stressful to both the partners.

f) Her husband has to live far away from her due to his service responsibilities.

iv)  Needs of Motivation: As her husband not staying with her and she feels loneliness and anxiety. She is inexperienced new mother and she has not calm behavior before child birth. Therefore she may be depressed. Hence she needs strong motivation to overcome such situation.

 v) What technique of counseling and family therapy needed: As her personality shows passive –aggressive personality, I think she needs Cognitive behavioural therapy and assertive training.

 vi) How would family therapy be effective in these age groups: For some misperception and behavior make in her childhood creates these entire problem. The CBT through ABC model may help her to rectify and control the cognition, behavior and emotions. Apart from this Assertiveness training is a form of behavior therapy designed to help people stand up for themselves, to empower themselves in more contemporary term. Assertiveness is a response that seeks to maintain an appropriate balance between positivity and aggression. In this age group misunderstanding, false belief, aggressive behavior and high emotion is common. Due to some hormonal issues also they may show all these symptoms. If they can understand the actual facts then they may solve these problems by themselves. In this age the newly married lady have to adjust in many side of family system , therefore, these counseling and family therapy may be effective for these age group.

C. Observations of female adult from the families as launching center.  

          Selected to observe a 47 years old lady, name Himalini Kalita.

i) Individual characteristics

·         She stayed in home alone almost all time, as her husband busy in his service work and elder daughter married and Son is staying at Delhi for his study.

·         She is very frustrated about her children.

·         She becomes purposeless.

·         Sadness and symptoms of stress and anxiety also seen.

·         Anger and unnecessary arguments disturbs her husband.

·         Not preparing and eating food in time.

 ii) Pesonality : Her personality is introvert type. She does not share her feelings easily.

 iii) Problems : The main problem is her anxiety and stress. Her husband thinks that her problem arises like argumentative, confusion and frustration etc. due to menopause. But actual problem I think empty nest syndrome. As she is house wife, she spent almost all time with her children and in this launching time her empty nest syndrome may obvious. She thinks her life became purposeless.

 iv)  Needs of Motivation: She needs motivation to understand and accept the reality of family system and make some purpose of life. To keep busy her in some work, what give her joy.

v) What technique of counseling and family therapy needed: The Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Millan’s systematic family therapy may be very useful in this case. Yoga therapy also may have its own good impact in this case.

vi) How would family therapy be effective in these age groups: CBT helps to understand the fact and control the emotions and behavior and yoga therapy may help in correction of hormonal issues in this ages. The empty nest syndrome may be treated with the Millan’s systematic family therapy. In this therapy the therapist offer an alternate perception and reality that will free the family to develop its own solution to the problem. Systemic family therapy gives information, advice, systemic opinion (reframing), redefinition of the context, commendation for family and individual strength etc. Systemic therapist use life cycle information to generate-

a) working hypotheses about the connection between the symptom and the system and

b) question to perturb the family system, so that the family can answer its own question “ What is the most useful way for our family to function at this time?”

In this age the person enough matured and suffers common problems of empty nest syndrome and menopausal syndrome therefore, these techniques of counseling and family therapy may be effective in this age group.

                                          ANALYSIS AND DISCUSION:

In first case the teenager does not like to go outside of home due to lack of friend and eating habits, in second case she likes to go outside of home but baby wants her, so she could not leave home and in third case due to stress arise from empty nest syndrome she does not want to go to outside from home. First one is internet addicted but another two are not. Frustration and irritations were not seen in the first case but in other two cases frustration n and irritation seen.

           The personality in this three cases are found different. In first case the observed person has an agreeable personality. He obeys parents and seniors always. The second person has passive- aggressive personality. In third case personality is introvert type. She does not share her feelings easily. In all three cases there is strong need of motivation to improve their thought process.

To control bulimia nervosa family support and contributions plays very important role. In this age group of adolescence, due to hormonal changes their behavior also changes, therefore in this age group the family therapy would be most effective.  In another case a young and new bride who is still adjusting with the husband's family may feel stressed out adjusting to the new set up and also coping with the responsibility of looking after the young one. She is 24 years old and cognition is not enough matured and inexperienced in marital relations and family matters. Therefore, she needs counseling and family therapy to overcome this situation. She also needs therapy to rectify the passive-aggressive personality disorder too. Empty nest refers to the post parental stage of family life, which begins as a value-laden term based on the assumption that parents, particularly mothers, would feel lonely and depressed once their children had grown and left home; it is often associated with negative stereotypes of the menopausal woman. In third case I observed this type of empty nest syndrome and negative stereotypes. The counseling and family therapy like CBT, Systemic family therapy and yoga therapy may be very effective in this case to heal the emotional pain of such age group.

                                         CONCLUSION:

          Through these observations of three people from different stages of life cycle, it has been found that the problems in different stages are different. The observations completed the aim and achieved the objectives successfully. In counseling and family therapy it has to keep in mind that the same therapy is not working to all age group and people from different stages of life cycle. Personality, characteristics and thought process are different as per the stages of life cycle.  Thus we can understand and analyze the nature of the people.