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Sunday, 19 June 2022

Extra Marital affair and My counselling Experience

            How counseled the rivalry of extramarital affair.

 One of my special clients contacted me. She told that her happiness was totally lost and life was exhausted. She was found self-irritated and very angry. 

            Every human is different, so no any theory would be worked in same pattern. When I talked to the client, I was decided to recognize the pattern of the client and the peoples connected with her first. Then good rapport building was next step, so that she can share everything clearly.

1st Session.

After rapport building, Case history taking and recording in laptop or notebook is the first step of counselling. In first Session, I took case history. During taking case history tried to reach the actual problem of client. But that was only on her point of view. I was filtered the data as per my requirements. Dogged more and more through open ended questions and closed ended questions. 

Findings of the First Session: Client's husband has extramarital affairs with her friend. It was confirmed. 

2nd Session.

 During second session I tried to examine the mental status of the client. I had found her mood swing and high emotion of anger. For the good rapport she told me almost everything.

Findings of the Second Session: Client's has hypothyroidism, which leads the mood swing. She is already under medication and I advised to consult with physician for dose adjustment of medicine.

3rd Session

In third session we set the goal to uncovering the unconsciousness, finding meaning in life, Curing an Emotional Disturbance, Examining old decision and making new ones, Developing trust in oneself, and Reducing maladaptive behaviour and learning adaptive pattern.

4th Session 

Fourth session’s Objectives includes the work to achieve the set goals. We decided the objectives one by one and determined the required time to complete the objectives.

5th Session 

In fifth session rectified the procedure towards the objective, which was followed by the client. Counsellor not gives any advice, but kust guide and helps by certain psychological procedure to achieve the goal through objectives  and the psychological procedure.

6 the Session

During sixth session tested the improvements of husband wife’s relations and about the extramarital affair of client’s husband. Shifted her main focus to her life and happiness from the affair. Her cognition and beliefs has been changed.

7th Session

In 7th session given some assignments to read some books and exercise. She confirms her feeling better and her happiness attracted her husband again. If you are not happy you could not make anybody happy.

8th Session

In 8th session guided the client towards more improvement in her behaviour and emotions. Found error in her emotions. As a lady client correction of emotion was not so easy. But anyhow  she managed it.

9th Session 

During 9th session she informed the good news gifting a car to her by husband.  We were discussed about what she learnt from the sessions and what to be continue life-long. She promised to follow every steps learned in counselling

10th Session 

In 10th session we discussed about my transference and her counter transference. Now it is time to detachment of counsellor and client. So that client can live independently.

Thus,  my counselling session was ended. I had used feminist approach and CBT approach to help the client.





 

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